is chivalry dead?

Some say chivalry is dead. I don't think it is, but I understand how men sometimes feel confused or frustrated on where the line is. "If I hope the door open for her, am I saying she can't physically open it herself?" The answer, in my opinion, is no. I am never offended if a guy offers to carry something heavy for me. But at the same time, I don't expect them to stand up when I enter the room either.

I've heard guys say, "women can't have it both ways." Either they want to be treated equally, or they want us to be chivalrous. I don't believe the two are mutually exclusive. Instead, the main point is kindness on all fronts. I think in general we should hold the door for each other, if someone is walking right behind us going through the same door. Women should open the door for me as well as the other way around. Both genders should offer to help carry something heavy if it looks like the person is struggling.

This article on CNN discusses the lines of chivalry. I think they are pretty on point with everything. They key is, as long as your have good intentions and are kind, no girl in her right frame of mind will blame you for doing something nice.

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